Why can’t people just appreciate what they have eh? Why would a husband be looking elsewhere when what he needs or require is right under his nose. Well, this definitely applies to my girlfriend's other half. He has everything in front of him, a wife who is beautiful, smart, intelligent and supportive of him in many ways. But still.....it is never enough! Sigh!! I just cannot comprehend when a husband does all the hanky panky without any conscience or guilt! I have been hearing for far too long about the many negative stories or comments pertaining to my girlfriend’s hubby? Oh boy, I am currently in a dilemma. I need hellllppp!. I am not sure whether I should spill the beans to my girlfriend or just keep my mouth shut. She is someone I have known for many many years. I like having her as a friend and respect her so much because she is a very warm and kind person.
Lately, I feel so guilty. I have been trying to avoid her as much as I can so as NOT be tempted to tell he about her hubby’s philandering and drinking habits….Sigh! I am sure of myself, if I were to spend some time with her I would not be able to stop myself from telling her about her husband and his little activities.
To make things more difficult, all three of us share common friends amongst colleagues from within the same industry. Friends who have been spending time with him after work have been telling others about his interesting activities. The latest news is when a close friend of mine who bumped into him during one of the informal gatherings, he was rather drunk and was indeed in a “friendly” mood.
Whenever he is with clients or his close friends, he is different. I was speechless when a friend told me he had a girlfriend whilst being married. Not too sure whether it was just a fling or a serious one. But then again she was also not sure whether it has ended or not. I have been hearing this for months but I keep telling myself this can’t be true. He loves his wife and I am sure he knows that he should not be misbehaving while she is heavily pregnant.
Lately, I feel so guilty. I have been trying to avoid her as much as I can so as NOT be tempted to tell he about her hubby’s philandering and drinking habits….Sigh! I am sure of myself, if I were to spend some time with her I would not be able to stop myself from telling her about her husband and his little activities.
To make things more difficult, all three of us share common friends amongst colleagues from within the same industry. Friends who have been spending time with him after work have been telling others about his interesting activities. The latest news is when a close friend of mine who bumped into him during one of the informal gatherings, he was rather drunk and was indeed in a “friendly” mood.
Whenever he is with clients or his close friends, he is different. I was speechless when a friend told me he had a girlfriend whilst being married. Not too sure whether it was just a fling or a serious one. But then again she was also not sure whether it has ended or not. I have been hearing this for months but I keep telling myself this can’t be true. He loves his wife and I am sure he knows that he should not be misbehaving while she is heavily pregnant.
Surprisingly, the wife seems to be fine, she never complains and is in the late stage of her pregnancy. Oh gosh, I feel guilty for not saying anything but I do not intend to be the one to cause her any heartaches or sleepless nights. She might have known or might not know but I am not taking the risk for now. I hope that the husband will come back to reality and realize what he is doing can be very damaging. Some of my friends believe that she might have known for years but she prefers to swallow what ever he is doing. While others pushed me to tell her the truth, they all say she deserves to know. Yikess, I am confused. And pretty much in a dilemma. If it was you and she was your friend, what would you do?
Oh well, since it is already the weekend, hopefully with a relax mind I can think better.
Enjoy your weekend folks!
4 comments:
Hi Nour,
When two people have been close, they tend to smell each other's pheromones. A wife knows when the hubby is straying and vise versa. I have mingled with couples in similar situation. No matter how close I am with the wives, I have decided it is not worth the while to rock the boat. So my lips are sealed.
Sometimes 'supposed' (wives may know, but prefer 'not to know'), as they say, ignorance is bliss.
I hope I can share my feelings with you in that, why not let your friend be. Please do meet her, keep her company but do a white lie. Pretend you know nothing. That is more for her own good. Have mercy darling. And you don't have to feel guilty. It's ok not to tell. my personal take on this issue, dear.
Hello, Nour!
How are you? All good? Are 24H in Portugal. In Malásia? Good day for you. I love Malásia. I`m see Ruby.
By, by
Nour, only those that went thru it, knows what actually happened. I am talking in general. Most of the time, it is miscommunication. Sad to say, this is something that have been going on since the beginning..... but the reasons differs. Each one of them, has their own stories.
Can we blame only one party? Most husband have affairs with another WOMAN.... I have come across of husband having affair with another man!
If it is me, just be there for my friend. I will not add up the misery that one is going thru life.
Hi Ruby,
Thank you for your wonderful personal thots and opinion, it made loads of sense and you are right...I should not rock her boat or even her life.
Thanks again :)
Hi David,
Good to know you love Malaysia. Have you been to Malaysia before??
DG,
Yikes it is worse enough to hear abt husbands having affairs with other woman..with another man..oh wow!
Yeah sometimes being the friend is pretty difficult. You only hear from others or see things that you might be wrong about. And when you open your mouth you have to realize the consequences of saying things to the other person. I have decided to shut up.
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