What an attitude!!

I really felt like strangling someone yesterday. Arrgh! This friend of mine at the office will never fail to amaze me when I am rushing for some important datelines. I have known him for many years and his attitude can be very frustrating at times. Whenever my boss is not around, he always tries to avoid taking up responsibilities. Just like yesterday, he refused to help, he was giving excuses all the way through.

I believe that one has to earn the respect by taking up the responsibilities entrusted to him/her. Only then would others learn to respect him or her. All this frustration I was feeling brought me back to a situation many years ago involving this same annoying friend of mine (friend A) when our office was located at a different floor. I still remember how he abandoned me and my other colleague (friend B) when three gigantic cabinets were toppling on us.

It all happened when friend B and I were checking out some info from the old files stacked in the three high cabinets. The cabinets stood close to each other and had many drawers attached to it and in those drawers we kept thick files for our reference. Those drawers were normally not locked and due to their heaviness, the drawers are normally ajar. So as I was standing next to my colleague looking at one particular file, all the heavy drawers were out of tangent and started to move towards us, they were too heavy to be in their respective slots. With them moving outwards, the high cabinets swayed towards us, it caught me off guard and I was too shocked to alarm the others while friend B screamed as loud and she could, trying her best to help me to stop the cabinets from toppling and that “friend” (friend A) of ours ran as fast as he could from the toppling cabinets. He stood there doing nothing.

The other guys I know from another department heard the commotion and they all ran as fast as they could to help. They managed to salvage the cabinets and supported the cabinets all the way through. Friend B and myself were left speechless. While that “friend “ (friend A) of mine looked from a far. All the guys were screaming at him for abandoning his female colleagues. After that incident I just knew how self centered he can be!

And yesterday he did it again. I felt like strangling him! Orang macam ni pun ada. Loong *sigh*...

What do I do??

Why can’t people just appreciate what they have eh? Why would a husband be looking elsewhere when what he needs or require is right under his nose. Well, this definitely applies to my girlfriend's other half. He has everything in front of him, a wife who is beautiful, smart, intelligent and supportive of him in many ways. But still.....it is never enough! Sigh!! I just cannot comprehend when a husband does all the hanky panky without any conscience or guilt!

I have been hearing for far too long about the many negative stories or comments pertaining to my girlfriend’s hubby? Oh boy, I am currently in a dilemma. I need hellllppp!. I am not sure whether I should spill the beans to my girlfriend or just keep my mouth shut. She is someone I have known for many many years. I like having her as a friend and respect her so much because she is a very warm and kind person.

Lately, I feel so guilty. I have been trying to avoid her as much as I can so as NOT be tempted to tell he about her hubby’s philandering and drinking habits….Sigh! I am sure of myself, if I were to spend some time with her I would not be able to stop myself from telling her about her husband and his little activities.

To make things more difficult, all three of us share common friends amongst colleagues from within the same industry. Friends who have been spending time with him after work have been telling others about his interesting activities. The latest news is when a close friend of mine who bumped into him during one of the informal gatherings, he was rather drunk and was indeed in a “friendly” mood.

Whenever he is with clients or his close friends, he is different. I was speechless when a friend told me he had a girlfriend whilst being married. Not too sure whether it was just a fling or a serious one. But then again she was also not sure whether it has ended or not. I have been hearing this for months but I keep telling myself this can’t be true. He loves his wife and I am sure he knows that he should not be misbehaving while she is heavily pregnant.

Surprisingly, the wife seems to be fine, she never complains and is in the late stage of her pregnancy. Oh gosh, I feel guilty for not saying anything but I do not intend to be the one to cause her any heartaches or sleepless nights. She might have known or might not know but I am not taking the risk for now. I hope that the husband will come back to reality and realize what he is doing can be very damaging. Some of my friends believe that she might have known for years but she prefers to swallow what ever he is doing. While others pushed me to tell her the truth, they all say she deserves to know. Yikess, I am confused. And pretty much in a dilemma. If it was you and she was your friend, what would you do?

Oh well, since it is already the weekend, hopefully with a relax mind I can think better.

Enjoy your weekend folks!

Pissed!!!!

Last Friday evening, as I was on the way out from the office building, I was dumbfounded when I discovered that all my money in my purse was gone. I panicked and my friend who was next to me saw how I was looking frantically all over my handbag and purse. She kept asking me what’s wrong??? Are you okay?? My face was pale…oh gosh RM200 plus all gone and there was no single bill in my purse. Damn!! The last time I saw my money was when I was withdrawing money from the ATM machine and paying for lunch after that.

I was cursing and swearing the whole weekend trying to remember when it happened and whether I could have misplaced the money. No way, the money was definitely in my wallet and I am sure I saw the notes and I did leave my purse in the drawer under my desk. Someone must have taken the money when I left the desk for some errands. I didn’t lock my drawers and that I admit was a BIG mistake. I normally lock when I leave for meetings etc. But on that particular day I didn’t lock because in my mind I was only going off for short time frames i.e a few minutes to the ladies, photocopier, to my colleagues’ cubicles. After 10 years with this organization, this is the FIRST for me and I just feel like strangling the person. I suspect the cleaners but then again I don’t have proof.

I went marching to the security side for a report yesterday. Did a report and met the person in charge. The first few words that came out of his mouth was "not another case”? I said what do do you mean?? He said another case was at the same level as I am, but it was for a bigger amount, RM1000 plus!!!! Also taken from the person’s drawer. Something definitely has to be done to catch this sicko, this can’t go on for years! The person who is doing all these stealing is definitely a professional. He said normal procedure for the security team is for them to proceed with an investigation and inform me later on the outcome.

I am still waiting. I know I can never get the money back but at least I have done my part by reporting. It will contribute to the so called growing statistics and actions have to be taken and solutions must be implemented. All I know is I am soooo pissed.

P/S :
I had a wonderful session of food binging during the weekend, lovely birthday treat from my lil sis at Aladdin (Thank u!! Sedap siot!).
Thanks Linda for the Chocolate Indulgence :) and my family/colleagues for their lovely gifts and wishes.