I am sure most of you would agree that in life, our family and friends are priceless gemstones. We should always cherish and treasure them. Without them around, life can be a living hell eh!! :P However as times goes by, I learn that having a bunch of useless friends is nothing as compared to having a very small circle of friends that cares for me. I would rather hang out wit a few good friends than a whole bunch of individuals who are obnoxious, rude and selfish.
These few friends I still have close to my heart are the ones who have gone through many trying times with me. Oohh and not to forget those happy and sweet memories as well. Like they always say if you want to know a person, do go and travel with him or her. You will discover how selfless or selfish he/she can be just by spending time together. My few friends who have been around me long enough would alrady know how I am as person. Having true friends is something like funds investment or growing a tree for returns in a long run. You need to cultivate and grow the seeds in order to have a beautiful friendship. It needs loads of patience, understanding and appreciation. I believe being a true friend, one needs to be honest and truthful to the other. As for me, a true friend is someone WHO falls under the following:-
These few friends I still have close to my heart are the ones who have gone through many trying times with me. Oohh and not to forget those happy and sweet memories as well. Like they always say if you want to know a person, do go and travel with him or her. You will discover how selfless or selfish he/she can be just by spending time together. My few friends who have been around me long enough would alrady know how I am as person. Having true friends is something like funds investment or growing a tree for returns in a long run. You need to cultivate and grow the seeds in order to have a beautiful friendship. It needs loads of patience, understanding and appreciation. I believe being a true friend, one needs to be honest and truthful to the other. As for me, a true friend is someone WHO falls under the following:-
- A friend who never back stabs another friend.
- A friend who never talk about me behind my back.
- A friend who does not keep secrets from me even when those secrets could change my life or career.
- A friend who means what she says.
- A friend who stands up for me when she knows what I did was right in a particular situation.
- A friend who never ditches me in a situation.
- A friend who knows how to safe guard my secrets. Who will not spill the beans to another close friend....(this I guess is the toughest part!! )
- A friend who is in control of herself, kind hearted, warm, understanding and selfless.
May be I am asking for far too much. But I guess finding a true friend is never easy.
Well, like they always say no one in this whole wide world is perfect, one has to learn to live and accept a person. NOT for me, life is too short to be taking any crap from anyone. I darn well know who are my quality friends and I hope to live my life with the people I know I can count on. :) Cheewahhh!!
13 comments:
nour.. i think u better check back your listing... some of them just don't go well with "a true friend is a person who..."
hehe.. ;-)
cheers mate!
Remind me of my ex-boss ... who taught me Buddhism and business diciplines:
Sixteen characteristics to look for in a good friend.
1. The Helpful Friend
2. The Constant Friend
3. The Friend of Wise Counsel
4. The Sympathetic Friend
1. A helpful friend is one who:
1. Protects us even when we are off our guard;
2. Helps protect our properties even when we neglect them;
3. Is our refuge in times of danger;
4. Always provides us with twice as much as we asked for;
2. A constant friend is constant in bad times and good:
1. They confide in us;
2. They don't go spreading our secrets around;
3. They don't abandon us when we fall on hard times;
4. They would even die in our place;
3. They give us good counsel:
1. They warn us against unwholesome behaviours;
2. Encourage us towards wholesome behaviours;
3. Save up new things to tell us;
4. Point us in the direction of betterment;
4. They empathize with us:
1. They don't laugh at our misfortunes;
2. They congratulate us on our good fortunes,
3. They speak out against anyone who maligns us,
4. They stand up for those who speak well of us
Nour, u ni dah merapu dah ni. ada ke "a true friend is someone WHO Does not know how to keep my secrets and later spill the beans to another close friend" ? u kena recheck and repost.
Hi Jade,
Yikes, thanks for informing me, entah ape yang I merapu tadi...I was in a hurry so everything went crazy..
Thanks mate!
Azer!!
I love what you just wrote there..definitely nailed the characters needed of a true friend!
Thanks.
Merapuman,
alamak I know I merapu..thanksla for detecting those tersilap sentences....I am good when it comes to merapu-ing!
So nice to see u here :)
It is so true.. "True Friend" are a hard to find, I wont ask much, is enuf if u care me as a friend
way to go, girl! i think kalau kita meet up kan, there'd be so many things we can share la with each other. sometimes i feel like i'm reading myself ;P heh.
you are so right. don't compromise because you take no sh*t from nobody. life is so much better then.
nzn,
yup a caring friend is a friend indeed.
cookie,
hehehehe, yeah great minds think alike..yess...I guess you and me just know what we want out of life, what we expect in a true friend, the fave phrase, you have to love yourself first before expecting someone to love you. Yeah I am training myself not to take crap from anyone.
so how many fits yr critirea so far?
Respect, be honest to each other and care for your friends.
mama punya friend yang i feel walaupun dah lama jauh di mata or tak contact, when we meet we pick up from where we left...
gravt kills,
hmmmm, I am still counting :P
Hi angel,
yup, RESPECT is they keyword.
mama rock,
those are your true friends...so lucky you!
In my life I had only one true friend...that is my mother...and she died...
blackfeline,
sisters or mothers are the best people to trust, coz no matter what they know who you are inside and outside. As for friends you know, it is difficult, through experience some can be soo nice and supportive but behind your back, they are competitive and not sincere!
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